Ok, my previous response should have been above this message:
but it is your (a gay) problem...you're the one in the minority...its not as big a problem for the bigots as it is for you !
equality on that level won't happen...the majority won't allow it and will fight with everything they have to see that it doesn't...
the social security system will collapse before the federal government condones same sex marriage...which...given enough time
should happen making marriage a worthless aggreement thereby allowing for same sex marriages...with very little benefit
True equality between majority and minority will never happen as long as human nature doesn't change. All we can do is strive to overcome our prejudices, our fear of those different than we are, our desire to be among a group of people like ourselves. We can make things as equal as possible, learn to see our similarities more than our differences. Maybe, someday, probably if we encounter extraterrestrial intelligence, we will learn that the different races of humankind on earth have far more in common with each other than we have differences.
And I don't know how long you've been watching how our government works, but with New York legalizing gay marriage it is only a matter of time until it becomes legalized nationally.